Dating religious woman
on his/her character, intelligence, level of learning, financial status, family and health status, appearance and level of religious observance.A shidduch often begins with a recommendation from family members, friends or others who see matchmaking as a mitzvah, or commandment.After the match has been proposed, the prospective partners meet a number of times to gain a sense of whether they are right for one another.The number of dates prior to announcing an engagement may vary by community. In stricter communities, the couple may decide a few days after originally meeting with each other.The prospective partners either date each other or in stricter communities they go to a "bashow"., or sit in.A typical bashow scene is that the young man with his parents goes to see the young woman in her house to see if the prospective couple are compatible.Those who support marriage by shidduch believe that it complies with traditional Judaism's outlook on Tzeniut, modest behaviour in relations between men and women, and prevents promiscuity.It may also be helpful in small Jewish communities where meeting prospective marriage partners is limited, and this gives them access to a broader spectrum of potential candidates.
Usually a professional matchmaker is called a shadchan, but anyone who makes a shidduch is considered the shadchan for it.It can also be used to express the seeming fate or destiny of an auspicious or important event, friendship, or happening.In modern usage, Jewish singles will say that they are looking for their bashert, meaning they are looking for that person who will complement them perfectly, and whom they will complement perfectly.Both sets of parents talk to each other, and then when the setting is more relaxed, they go into another room, leaving the man and woman in the living room to speak among themselves.Some use this opportunity to actually ask each other pertinent questions, while some just want to see if they like each other, relying more on the information they got from the shadchen or from other people.
In strictly Orthodox Jewish circles, dating is limited to the search for a marriage partner.