Rules for dating my parent
I have seen parents lie about dating, sometimes for years, and when the child eventually finds out, they can be devastated.
You don’t want to introduce your children to who you are dating, but you do want them to know that you are dating again and are not getting back together with the ex.
You are not doing yourself any favors by dumping on your ex or detailing your five-year custody battle.
All you are doing is revealing your crazy side and scaring the sane people away.
Here is my top 10 list of things parents and people dating parents should never do, based on my experience as a child psychiatrist, step-parent, parent, step-child and recent online dater.
Armed with these tips, you can confidently get back in the dating pool knowing that you are not putting your children at risk.
Wouldn’t you prefer to let them slowly discover their sexuality rather than throw them into the deep end of the pool? Even if a parent is dead, has abandoned them or is in prison for life, children often resent attempts by step-parents to parent them and see such things as manipulative efforts to replace a parent.
As a child psychiatrist, I have treated a large number of children who were harmed by the poor choices their parents made while dating.
I also saw parents do quite a few disturbing things while I was recently single and dating, but you don’t have to give up on dating with children; and you don’t have to be a spinster to protect your children if you are smart about it.
Register with Meet Mindful for free today—the fastest growing dating site for conscious singles. Scott Carroll is an associate professor of child and adolescent psychiatry and is the Director of Psychiatric Consultation Services at the University of New Mexico Children’s Hospital where he specializes in pediatric psycho-oncology and neuropsychiatry.
He is also a full mesa carrying shaman in the Andean tradition and the founder of the Ayni Neuroscience Institute, which is dedicated to the integration of indigenous healing wisdom and cutting edge neuroscience.