Rules for dating while married
Women who want to get married, but not right now, will probably think it sounds desperate, manipulative, and unromantic. The Rules explains why two questions most women have at some point are related: how can I get the man I love to love me? The premise of The Rules is that men love a challenge.
It is none of those, but it can appear that way if you don't have the motivation to really hear what they're saying. If you want a man to act like a man, and treat you like a woman, challenge him as a man. I see the controversy over The Rules coming from two directions.
Remember the country song that says, “How can I miss you if you won’t go away?
” Now put the shoe on the other foot, and imagine what it does to a man’s interest if he isn’t sure whether you’ll be there if he stops pursuing you.
You may even have liked them at first, but now they are no challenge to you because they are always there.But if, like me ten years ago, you are serious about marriage, and you don't understand why the same cycle keeps repeating in your relationships, you won't care who likes the book or doesn't. First, it is politically incorrect to say that there are anything but minor physical differences between men and women.Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider don't really bother with arguing; they just point out that, like it or not, for whatever reason, this is what works with men.No, you won't have to act like this forever, and it isn't being mean to men.Challenge is not the only thing men need; you won’t have to act uninterested forever.
Meanwhile, the friends of these women, who listened to their recommendations, aren't married, or are married in name only.